Here are some things that help me in my moments of anxiety:
- It's totally natural to have crazy mood swings during pregnancy. Anxiety is a sure sign that pregnancy hormones are doing their work, so if you are extremely worried it's just another symptom of pregnancy.
- Pregnancy is preparation for motherhood. One of the greatest lessons is to realise that I am not in control. The fact that conception and birth are not dates that can be planned in stone is a reminder that although you would love to have a spring baby it's not really your choice. The universe will do what it will. Surrender.
- Try to talk to someone who normalises pregnancy. Whilst it's great to have some friends get over the top excited sometimes this can feel like pressure, I don't want to let them down. Talk to someone who works with pregnant women all the time and will understand that pregnancy is a prefectly normal stage of life, most women do it.
- Highs and lows are inextricably linked. Don't get too involved with your highs and you won't get too involved with your lows.
- Go and talk to your health care provider for reassurance.
- If you are not having bleeding or cramping there's nothing to worry about. A change or lack of pregnancy symptoms or simply not feeling pregnant does not mean you have lost the baby.
- Dr Frawley suggests that anxiety can weaken the embryo, so let your fears go for the sake of your baby.
Finally the vast majority of pregnancies result in a healthy baby so sit back and enjoy the ride.